Curve Chronicles #1: How You Start is How You Finish

 “Rule number one: How you start with a person is how you’ll finish with them. Everything from how you dress to how you speak and carry yourself will determine whether you are the person they want in their life or whether they are the person you want in your life.” Jason Lovejoy, Curve 

  Robert Beck, or as he’s known to us in the literary world Iceberg Slim, once wrote in his best selling book Pimp that “The way that you start with a bitch is how you’ll end with a bitch.” The advice came from a character identified in his story as Weeping Shorty, who according to the book was known for being able to aggressively control and dominate his subjects. While not the most flattering terminology, its sentiments should not fall on deaf ears.  In writing the novella, entitled Curve, it dawned on me that this idea while not revolutionary, was simple enough to be complex. By that, I simply mean that the way a person gets a potential love interest’s attention cements in a sense the other person’s perception which in turn becomes their reality. In many instances where people are rebuffed or curved, they are unaware of how their first impression validated the other person’s willingness to want to date them or in some instances choose to simply be friendly with them.

Countless articles and books illustrate the necessity of make a lasting first impression especially considering how easily our attention can be divided and used in other fruitful and fruitless ventures. With that in mind, it begs the question of just how impartial our choices are for who we see as potential mates. Undoubtedly, there are several decisions that factor into our choice to date or mate with someone, and it would seem as if the way a person dresses, smells, and looks when we meet them indelibly leaves an imprint that we can not deny. In short, if you want the attention of someone you like, you have to command their attention in the beginning or not at all.

In the story, Jaylon strives to become a man that women notice and in essence want. The advice he receives is to simply be aware of how he presents himself to the world from speech to dress with the understanding that how you present yourself to the world says a lot about who you are as a person. Attention to detail in regards to your dress, your finances, and your physical condition is essential to ensure that you represent your brand correctly.

“The way you dress is the billboard that tells perceptive people how you feel about yourself. ” Barbara Walters